Sunday, February 14, 2016

It's awkward when it is valentines

( Forgive me for the photos that do not seem to match the theme, but they are lovely. haha! )

I have been single for a long time now. It does not really bother me at all, actually it is a lot more fun than being in a relationship. No, I am not bitter or still in the process of nursing a heartache--I am just not looking for trouble at the moment.

I find it funny to have myself write a valentine's note on the blog but I feel like I need to. For one, I have never seen my Facebook flooded with all kinds of romantic, cheesy stuff. It is somewhat creepy because I feel like: "Am I really the only one who does not make a big deal out of February 14?". Oh, well maybe couples in love would never understand such dilemma. Secondly, I am also wondering if love should only be celebrated on certain days and is manifested through chocolates, flowers and fancy dates. I mean, I believe that in true, genuine and authentic love (imagine the abuse of synonyms), it is celebrated and manifested in every single action that we do. I believe that everyday is valentines day and it does not necessarily have to be fancy and grandiose, what is important is that it makes the both of you happy. Or is it just me being to fairy tale-ish and hopelessly romantic? Lastly, I want to tell all the single soul in the planet to just chill and wait for your other half. You do not need to panic when you do not receive a bouquet of flowers or even a chocolate bar, come on, you are much better than that.

Since the situation calls for having something to say about love, I would try to put my two cents on the matter. For most people, the definition of love has something to do with having a boyfriend or a girlfriend, dating and doing couple things. This has been the most restricted definition of love, by far. I feel sad for it. Love is such a general word. It encompasses passion for the other human beings, including friends, family and relatives, passion for your dreams and careers, passion for the environment and charity works. Love concerns pretty much everything that requires human action.

It is funny though, that people, especially the youth tends to center their world on their flings or in their young relationships. I have nothing against being attracted and falling in love with the opposite sex, it is just too sad that people think it is all that matters. It is sad to think that people always act with emotions and throwing away logic, thus, resulting to early marriage or early pregnancy. When young people fall in love (the mature ones, know how to handle themselves already), they give it their all to show their undying love for their partners. They forget themselves because they put the other person first. I think this is totally ridiculous. True, undying and unconditional love starts with the self. It starts with YOU, loving your imperfections but striving to become better. It starts with YOU doing and chasing after your dreams and goals. And then when you reach the point where you feel like there is too much love overflowing in you, you want to radiate that love to other people and that is the perfect moment that you share that love to someone. That is the perfect moment when you finally commit yourself into investing emotions to another person, building a life with them and not around them. In this manner, both of you become partners and helping each other to become the best that you can be and not pulling each other down.

True love arrives at the perfect moment. That moment is determined by God or if you do not believe in such, at least in a Supreme Being or by all the forces of the universe. It arrives when your life is already in order.  Do not rush because when things are done half-baked, they do not usually last long. So while you are still single and free, explore the world, read more books, create more memories and live your life the way you want it to be-- no holds barred. When the time comes you are ready to be with someone: to spend your breakfast with, to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays with, to spend date nights with, to share your frustrations, anger and hunger with, and to spend your whole life with, you will not have any regrets in your life.

So much for being too cheesy now, let us go back to the point. Generally, I really find this day awkward because I literally spent the whole day lip-syncing songs on Youtube, reading e-books and by evening I have read the Revised Penal Code Art. 114-124 and Judicial Ethics page 295-305 before I decided to stop and write an entry in my blog. Social events and over updating in social networks makes me realize how isolated I am from civilization. Surprisingly, though,  I finished quite a number of task today, sitting. It's been a funny valentine's day but it was not bad at all.

There are only 2 more hours left for valentine's day, I hope it is not too late to wish you a happy  hearts day all! ♥

Friday, February 12, 2016

The art of getting by

Hey you guys! How have you been? I missed this blog, my readers and everything I used to do in here. I missed life, generally. How have I been, you ask? I've been doing fine I guess. I am getting by with my life, school and work. I think. Or maybe not. Actually, my life is on the rocks right now. I feel bad and I feel miserable and sad. I do not really want to dwell on the negative, but if I do not let this out, I might explode one of this days and I might never be sane again.

I really cannot pinpoint when this feeling started, but I feel so lost for the past two years of my life. When I was 17 years old, I thought I had figured my life out. I thought I was so straightforward on my goal and firm on my destination. I do not know what happened midway that I took a whole new different foreign direction and I am struggling finding my way out.

After March last year, I just realized that I do not know where to go next. All I know was that I want to be rich, travel the world and be glamorous. My mind was too big and yet my actions and efforts are too small. I want everything to be grand but I am not aware that I am not working on it at all. I do not know where my goals went, but the next thing I knew I was doing something that is spontaneous and alien.

Last year was both a success and failure for me. It was a success in a sense that I graduated with honors and passed the LET exam and at the same time landed my first paying job. But it was a failure in a way law school and I are related. Ever since I entered law school, I have lost my way. I do not know what I am doing, why I am doing this or whether I should continue this or not. I have talked myself out of this thing a million times, but I always find myself going to school, battling for oral recitations and studying hard for exams. I thought if I give this one more shot maybe I can find solace in pressure. I thought that if I give it another try, I might find my place somewhere in the legal profession. But every time my nerves will get into me, I always end up believing I am not made for this thing. I think I am better off somewhere. It only ends up with me enrolling and buying books for the second semester.

The second semester came, and everyday I am forcing myself to believe that I am going to enjoy this and I am going to be better this time. But as day goes by, I feel more and more empty and more frustrated. I am drifting farther away from my dreams, from my life and from everything that gives me happiness. I look myself at the mirror and I feel so detached from my soul, I am like a robot programmed on the same routine everyday. I lost the excitement of living. I sleep, wake up, do chores, work and study. Repeat. When I look around me, I am jealous of the people who seem so happy taking on adventures and living a carefree and happy life. But when I reflect on my life, I only realized how stuck up I am in my room, staying here for 18 hours a day with my computer or books. I have no other things to do in life and I feel so bored and tired and unsatisfied.

I hate to ponder on these things because I do not want to be miserable. However, the more I try to elude from such thought, the more it consumes me. For the past days, I have been evil and I hated everyone I see. I hated everyone that disturbs me. I hate the world, basically. I have reached the point where I am about to give up breathing and die. I am so tired with my life. I worked hard, I am doing everything they tell me but I am not happy. I feel so trapped and I feel so suffocated. Everybody's telling me what to do, everybody wants to control my life and I am so tired already. I hope they understand I am not a genius, I am not a superhuman and I am not invincible. They have to slow down demanding a lot from me. Even if they do not voice it out, their actions show that they are expecting so much from me. They have the biggest dream for me but they forgot to ask me if I am still happy with what I am doing. They said they do not pressure me but I know they are expecting a lot from me.

It is just so sad that when I open up my real goals to them, they tend to not comment about it. They say they support me but I know they do not. They want me to finish law first before I can do my personal goals. Law is good. Law is promising. But do I belong here? Am I willing to sacrifice the next years of my life doing something I do not really want. Everyday, I always wake up with a clouded mind. I force myself to enjoy and be happy about what I am doing. I am trying my best to give justice to my tuition fee and expensive books but my best is never enough for the teacher. I always seem to be short in delivering what is asked of me. It is sad because I easily get disappointed with myself. Sometimes, I end up having depression, too much stress and I think of things that are not supposed to be.

They told me not to be stressed. They told me to just relax and study hard and avoid overthinking and overdoing. But in reality, what I need is air, space and time for myself. I need to breathe. I need a time to find my balance. I know I am burnt out. I have had no rest since graduation. I need a new environment where I can put my mind and soul at ease. But they will never understand that because I am invincible to their eyes. They will never hear out my side because they think I can do it all. But I cannot. I need rest. I need a fresh start. I need a break.

The sad thing about this situation right now, I have lost my passion. I go to malls to unwind, but shoes and bags do not excite me anymore. I go to fashion and travel blogs and everytime I attempt to write my own article on the topic, I do not know how to start writing. I have been so lost. I want to go back home to myself. I want to start again. I just want to live my life again.

I really do not want to hold you long anymore for my rants, so I am going to stop here. I will leave you with a message: Know your passion and follow it. Do not let people or your own achievements stir you away from your original goal. Stick to the plan but be flexible in your approach. Do not listen too much to people because 10% of what they say will only apply to you. If you listen too much, you will become their concept of their own ideal self not of your self. So work hard, pray hard and enjoy life. 

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